• Everyday Restorative Interactions

     

    Developing social skills to help us better manage tension and conflict when they arise.

    Modeling effective social skills in everyday interactions helps develop positive relationships and creates a framework to help keep small conflicts from escalating or accumulating over time. Used consistently by all school members, they can have a significant impact on a school community.


     

    Some of the ideas and questions below, commonly encouraged in everyday restorative interactions at school, may also be helpful for use at home:

    • Use “I Statements" to express personal feelings, provide feedback, create boundaries, and develop empathy."I am upset about..." 
      • "I want to talk about..." 
      • "I am really proud about..." 
      • "I feel so inspired when I see you..."
      • "I feel very frustrated when..."
      • "It's so exciting when you..."
      • "I'm disappointed to hear that..."
      • "When this happened I felt... because..."
    • Use "Restorative Questions" to help understand situations, consider the impact of one’s actions, and take responsibility for making things better."What happened?" 
      • "What were you thinking/feeling at the time? What have you thought about since?" 
      • "Who was affected by what happened? How were they affected?" 
      • "What needs to happen to repair the harm done and make things right?" 
      • "What can we do moving forward to make sure this doesn't happen again?"
    • Use small "Restorative Conversations" among family members to manage tension or conflicts when they arise. These conversations utilize some of the tools described above and can be conducted as impromptu or planned interventions. Such conversations can:Encourage positive interactions.
      • Model a healthy approach to conflict resolution
      • Break patterns of small incidents from escalating